I’m 24&in Grad school. For the past few months I have been looking for a car because I am about to start working with a company and need reliable transportation to get there. I haven’t had a vehicle up until now because it’s just an extra expense I didn’t need. My dad found out from my mom (they are divorced), that I was looking for a car. He knows that because of school, I only work part time. So, he offered to GIVE me a car he bought that he doesn’t drive because he has two vehicles. The car is fairly new and very nice! He says he will continue to pay the notes on it and the only thing I will be responsible for is the insurance. He really wants to help me out and I accepted. I am VERY thankful for this& see it as a major blessing. HOWEVER, a small part of me also feels bad because he has to give up his car for me. I also feel bad because at 24, my parents are still having to foot my bills. I pay all my credit card bills, phone bills, etc. But that’s nothing compared to a car note.
I am so very thankful and appreciative of this blessing because it was totally unexpected, but at the same time, I am beginning to feel like a burden on my parents. Parents would you have done this for your children? At what point do you expect your child to stop depending on you so much, and when does it become a burden? I am happy and I also know my dad wants to see me succeed, but I also feel so guilty because I know most people my age have careers and stuff….what point do you expect your children to stop relying on you so much?
Thank you all for the wonderful input! I guess it’s hard for me to look at it from a parental perspective because i’m not a parent. I don’t know who is giving all the thumbs down, but I think the answers are wonderful and I appreciate it!